I have never publicly spoken on the matter other than one instagram post the day following, but I am finally divorced. As of May 8th, I’m free.
Throughout the entire thing, my only focus was this sweet girl. I was granted both sole legal and sole physical custody, which is exactly what I wanted.
My sweet angel was abandoned by her own father in the middle of the night of her very first birthday. He only tried to call her once and has only visited her once since disappearing, and let’s be real: it’s because the judge threatened him to get him to finally show up after FOUR no shows to court. I just want to know how on earth can somebody so easily leave behind their own child, how can they so easily sign all their rights away, what has to be so wrong with them that it’s a cakewalk to do?
My baby may not have her father in her life, but she has plenty of positive male role models. She may not have her father but she has her fathers family. I am so thankful for her greatgrammy, her grandpa, her aunt and uncle, all the great aunties uncles and cousins from his side always cheering her on.
My ex and his mistress probably think they won because they get to play house and shack up together. They’re probably beaming with joy that they finally got to change their relationship status on Facebook(no joke, they literally changed it yesterday, the day the divorce became final). But I am the real winner. I am the one who gets to spend every single day learning with her and loving her. I am the one who gets to soak up all the snuggles and laughter.
The only thing I can hope for now is that my sweet girl always knows she’s loved and always knows her worth. We get to start over and create a new story for the two of us and for that I am forever thankful.